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Believing is seeing.

Tuesday, February 19, 2019

 Visualise

There’s an old saying. “I’ll believe that when I see it”

But there is mounting evidence that suggests the opposite is more correct – that we see it when we believe it”

I remember being amazed in a class where the teacher asked us to look carefully, from our seats, at the window, and note the position of the fly screen gauze. The question was then asked: “Is the fly screen on the inside or the outside of the glass?”

I was one of the 95% who said it was on the outside. I’d looked carefully and that’s what I (thought) I saw, because I’d never seen a fly screen on the inside before. I ‘saw’ what I expected to see.

We’ve been learning a lot lately about the neuroplasticity of our brains, which means we can “change” our brains and our minds, in much the same way as we can change our bodies’ - fitness, skills, weight, shape, etc.

But never forget that the changes can go either way: - Eat too much of the wrong food, smoke and do no exercise and our bodies will soon be a sad sight to ourselves and everyone around us, just as a bad attitude and lazy mental habits result in a weak mind and a less than lovely personality.

If you read last weeks’ column, you’ll remember we talked about ‘ideals’. How they can be useful as guidelines, or benchmarks. But, here’s a thing: When we consciously “visualise” we can be caught out by expectations or ‘experience’.

When we looked at the window, most of us saw what we thought we ‘should’ see. We didn’t see what was really there.

The same thing can happen when we try to “visualise’ our own perfect self or situation. We see what we THINK we should want, are trained to want or are expected to want – by our families, our teachers and friends as well as our community. So, when we consciously visualise, what we see may not be what WE want. Or believe is right.

The answer is to ask your subconscious. It’s easy to ask - but we have to learn to hear the answer.

Firstly, get into a calm place where you feel comfortable. You know the deal – your own “special place”

And here’s another thing. It doesn’t have to be the traditional waterfall or beach at sunset with movie clouds and butterflies. Hold your breath for a revelation: - some people say they feel most relaxed on the toilet. The point is, your special place is somewhere away from distractions. Away with your own thoughts.

So, get somewhere you can relax, then ask yourself what YOU want and let your subconscious come up with the answer.

And listen. Your gut knows. You might want to be on the inside rather than outside. Or vice versa.
Meanwhile, mold that brain and body with good food, good activities, good thoughts, butterflies and yes, toilets.

It’s all part of life.

Have a great week.

 


The Best Ideal is Fairness.

Thursday, February 07, 2019

IDEALISE

If you’ve just tuned in to ‘An iKi Kind of Life’ - here is a brief explanation.

Each week we release a thought inspired by one of the words or phrases in the iKi Crew song, “Every Single Day” Each word or phrase represents an idea, an activity or choice.

“Every Single Day” summarises a core belief at iKi: that key to living productive and rewarding lives is choosing – and practising - behaviours that lead to positive, fair outcomes for ourselves, our families and our communities. Every single day.

You can listen to a sample above – or find it on iTunes.

This weeks’ thoughts are around the word ‘Idealise’ which means to represent something in an ideal form or character or to measure something as perfect or excellent.

Most of us think in terms of ideals at least some of the time. We might think about the ‘perfect’ job, the dream relationship, an excellent holiday, the best body and much more. We strive to be as good as we can be, to be honest, a great parent, loyal friend, hard worker. We resolve to look after ourselves and our family. But try as we might, there are times we find ourselves falling short of our ideals.

We’re all human, we all have flaws and few things in life are as simple or as easy as we may like. So an important consideration when dealing with ideals is to remember that while they can be great guides they are rarely attainable.

Remember also that there is good and bad in everything. Elements like arsenic, cyanide and selenium are deadly in even small amounts, - but micro amounts are essential to all life. Ideals can be excellent guides to help us visualise where to aim, what to strive for and to provide a benchmark for comparison, so long as we remember reality, moderation and consequences.

Think of “Ideals” like a cup of coffee or your favourite beverage. Taken at the right time and in the right quantity it can be SO good – the signal for a relaxing break, full of antioxidants and energy. But taken in excess, can cause all kinds of problems, like insomnia, nervousness, irritability, stomach cramps, heart palpitations. The list goes on.

The same principle can be applied to "ideal' values. For example, honesty is the best policy, though there are occasional ‘right times’ for a white lie. “Does my butt look big in this” anyone?

More serious can be  political, economic or religious ideology. Capitalism is a theory that insists ‘the market’ is the best way to encourage individual effort. On the one hand it has lifted billions of people out of poverty and helped build an amazing world, where dreams can come true. But taken to the extremes we see all around us, it exploits and damages the environment, communities, families and individuals. Its' “winner take all philosophy” is leaving many behind, just as the overuse of resources for profit is damaging our future.

And sadly, the news is full of examples of political and religious idealists inflicting horrific punishments, torture and mass murder on those who don’t measure up.

So, let’s aspire to ideals that allow for difference, share the benefits of progress and profit, and preserve the future for our children and grandchildren.

This year lets prioritise one ideal – fairness.

Have a great week.