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Learning to relate creates great mates.

Saturday, September 29, 2018

Learn to relate.

Human kind is made up of multiple colour, national, ethnic and cultural groups, not to mention myriad body shapes, genders, religions, fashions, fetishes, etc, etc, etc. But we are SO the same. We all want to feel safe, respected, valued, loved and secure.

Learning to relate to others is one of the most life affirming things we can do, for SO many reasons.

For example, the Dali Lama teaches many things to help us live more productive, satisfying lives and his key lesson is to: “Exchange a self-centred attitude for one of thinking more about others. It is much easier to handle our problems when we realise everyone else has their own. A problem shared is a problem halved”.

It’s easier to get along with each other when we focus on the things we share in common, rather than our differences. Our likes, needs and dreams are similar, and even our differences are less than we think they are. All it takes is the effort to look past the “packaging”. And not only can relating to others add to our feelings of happiness, it can impact on our health and safety.

Creating positive relationships in our personal and professional life brings enormous benefits. How we speak and what we choose to say can either make people feel valued and understood or disrespected and marginalised. And let’s not forget that the way we treat others tends to come back to us. Our behaviour really matters.

We humans share 99.9% of our DNA. We are (MUCH) more closely related than surface appearances may suggest. Think of others as like ourselves and it builds better relationships. After all we are all related!

“Treat others the way you want to be treated” Not for nothing is this called the ‘Golden Rule’ or the ‘Rule of Life’

Or in the words of the iKi Rulz song, “Treat each other nice today – you will earn respect that way”

Have a caring week.

 


Education is a great investment.

Monday, September 24, 2018

Educate

I’m going to start this week with a couple of quotes, followed by the results of a research project that make a powerful point.

Somebody older and much wiser than me once told me that “The best investment you can ever make is in education.”

Another person, whom I didn’t take a lot of notice of at the time, said “The main point of formal education is to learn to learn”.

Finally, the results of a recent study:- “6 months after spending a relatively large amount of money (several thousands of dollars) on either a new 'gadget' or an ‘experience’ (holiday, education, activity) the people who invested in the experience reported much higher levels of long term satisfaction”.
Remember, the people who bought the gadgets still had the goods, while the ones who’d invested in the “experience” had nothing material to show for it. But they were happier with their investment.

Why? Because they had grown in skill, confidence, experience. As a result, they were empowered, having learned - or reaffirmed - that the more you do, the more you can do.

And that knowledge improves “quality of life” a whole lot more than material things.

At this point in the discussion let’s consider that education isn’t necessarily about going to school or doing a course, it can include practically any situation where you challenge yourself - travelling to new places, interacting with different people, broadening your horizons. DOING things that involve active engagement, new mindsets and/or some kind of change.

This week, do something educational. Learn something new. It can be as simple as opening a dictionary and looking up a new word, through to embarking on a university degree. It can be as quick as Googling information about a place you’d like to visit, right through to learning the language, planning and going on the trip.

Education isn’t just about facts and figures, it’s about ability and confidence. The knowledge that we can learn, grow, and take control of our lives.

A couple of education themed proverbs to end with.

First for the pupil. “When the student is ready the teacher will appear”

The second for the teacher. “When you teach, you learn”

Finally, for all of us. “Tell me, I forget, show me, I remember, involve me, I understand”

Have an interesting week.

 


Delegation - great for all involved

Tuesday, September 18, 2018

Delegating can be good for you - and for them.  .

There's an old saying; "If you want something done properly, do it yourself" There's no doubt that in some cases this is true. However, someone else said; "I have so much to do, that I'm going to bed" Occasionally, life can be so overwhelming, we just want to stop.

Sometimes, doing things yourself is good strategy, while at other times getting help can be smart. If you’re struggling to get everything done it may simply mean you've got too much to do, or that you are trying to do things you don't have the skills or aptitude for. 

It can be good management to bring in specialists who will do the job quickly and efficiently - and there are other reasons and circumstances when delegating is a good choice.

Delegating a job can be a well-deserved reward. An occasional baby-sitter, cleaner, gardener or ironing helper can be a gift from heaven. Then, there are those times when it’s a great idea to get someone else do a task for us because it is empowering for them. If they offer, let them do it. If they don't offer, ask them. Remember the adage, "Give a person a fish and they eat for a day, teach them to fish and they eat for life". 

Sometimes you just have to let go and ask the children or partner to do some of the chores. Great teams are made up of members who play their own part the best they can, as well as helping each other when needed. 

Remember, the key to successful delegation is clear communication. Give enough instructions to make the job achievable and then trust the person you have asked to do it for you. That way they can grow in confidence and ability - and it’s a win-win for everyone.

Have a sharing week

Kim

 

 


Clear Communication Creates Calm Community

Saturday, September 01, 2018

1.Communicate.

No matter how old we are, there are some things we remember clearly from our younger years, while others are a blur.

One of my favourite memories is of sitting in a potato paddock having a break, discussing the world with a couple of mates. We were about 16 years old at the time. I recall we agreed that the world would be a much better place “if we could just communicate”.

But even in our early teens – when we thought we knew so much - we understood that was no simple thing. There are so MANY things to disagree about - with 40 different words for snow, hundreds of models of cars, multiple life choices, not to mention sport, politics and religion. We were the same age and gender, from the same small town, with similar interests, speaking the same language - and we still disagreed on lots of things.

We did agree there was massive room for misunderstandings to arise in the real world. And this was before smart phones, thousands of TV channels and the myriad other new distractions demanding our attention, our loyalty, our time and money. The risk of being misunderstood, misheard or mistaken is now so vast it’s a wonder we agree on anything.

So, with this in mind, this week (and all weeks hereafter) take care – be aware, when communicating. Let’s be clearer when we text. Follow up emails with a call to be sure our intention is clear. When interacting face to face, be mindful of our body language and tone of voice and make the effort to listen to the other persons’ point of view.

Taking a little more care can save a mess of stress by ensuring we’re on the same page. After all, we are in the same story.

Have a great week.