THE iKiFit BLOG

Join iKiFit founder, Kim Macrae for inspirational and thought provoking topics around all things, education, life choices, self empowerment and assessment - set to challenge us all to be the best version of ourselves - Every Single Day in lots of little ways!
(Click below to hear iKi Crews Every Single Day excerpt, full version for sale on iTunes).

Qualified Life Coach and Fulltime working mother of 3 - Amy takes you on a journey of how iKi SRL has empowered her through the most challenging times of raising 3 children and remaining a model of what it means to be happy, healthy, strong.

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Look, Listen - put that technology down!

Tuesday, November 14, 2017

 

I recently was doing some additional work hours from home on a project and was frantically juggling my work hat, domestic hat, wife hat and mum hat all the while with a deadline looming over my head.

I had set Mr 3 up in the lounge-room around me, near me, just not on me - to play happily on the floor whilst I kept plugging away at my work.

Every now and then he would come up and show me his latest masterpiece he had built with his bright coloured bricks, each time, only a few bricks differed from the previous sample.

Over a period of half an hour I obviously got a bit less enthusiastic with my responses of "Wow, aren't you clever, can you build something even bigger for Mummy" or "Cool Buddy you are such a big boy being able to build that all by yourself" - or at least they must not have been to an acceptable standard as suddenly Mr 3 was sitting up on top of my squishing my face in his hands and pulling my head towards him.

I stopped what I was doing and looked at him, trying to breathe and not lose my temper as the pressure of this work washed over my whole body.

With my squished face like a ball of play dough in his chubby little hands he eye balled me and in his most 'teacher-like' voice said "Mummy, Look, Listen & Learn Mummy. You not listen to me Mummy".

I said "I'm sorry darling, Mummy has been busy doing my work and you have been such a good boy playing by yourself while I do that, why did you say I need to 'Look, Listen & Learn?"

Mr 3 said "I was talking a you and you not looking at me, you not listen to me Mummy. I love you this much (stretching his arms out wide) BUT you need to listen to me and look at me when I tell you".

NOW - Firstly can I just point out - how early the iKi Rulz stick for a child when embedded from an early age (both at home and at long day care - I can't take all the credit). Secondly, how brilliant that in context my Mr 3 can apply them to voice how my behaviour is making him feel.

SO - What do we learn from this? It's like the saying goes "Do as I say, not as I do".... except not, it's "Do as I say and as I do" - if we want our children to grow into the happy, healthy, strong, respectful, contributing members of society we expect them to be - then we need to show them what that looks like. Because they ARE watching and they ARE listening! And they ARE ready to learn!!

When we ask our children to look at us when we are speaking to them and not continue playing their technology, then we must do the same. If we ask our children to use their inside voices and use words not actions to describe how they are feeling, then we must do the same. If we want our children to grow up to respect themselves, their siblings, their neighbours - then we must do the same.
So, in case you need some help with the basics, like I did (thanks Mr 3 for the shake up) - here is a little reminder:

1. Look, Listen, Learn - look and listen and you will learn and allow others to learn also.
2. I'm Ok, You're Ok - treat others the way you wish to be treated.
3. No Play, No Play - if you don't play by the rules there may be consequences.
4. Eat Well, Live Well - eat a healthy, balanced, nutritious diet and you will live a happy healthy life.
 
To get some help implementing these core life values into your home and get the whole family working as a Happy, Healthy, Strong
Team - why not sign up for an online membership - find out more by clicking here

 

Enjoy your week, Active Aspiring Amy. 

 


Delegate - Alleviate

Tuesday, November 07, 2017

2. Delegate

There's an old saying; "If you want something done properly, do it yourself" There's no doubt that in some cases this is true. However, someone else said; "I have so much to do, that I'm going to bed" Sometimes, life can be so overwhelming, we just want to stop.

Sometimes, doing things yourself is good strategy, but there are other times getting help can be smart. If you’re struggling to get everything done it may simply mean you've got too much to do, or that you are trying to do things you don't have the skills or aptitude for.

It can be good management to bring in specialists who will do the job quickly and efficiently - and there are other reasons and circumstances when delegating is beneficial.

Delegating a job can be a well-deserved reward. An occasional baby-sitter, cleaner, gardener or ironing helper can be a gift from heaven. Then there are times it’s a good idea to get someone else do a task for us because it is empowering for them. If they offer, let them do it. If they don't offer, ask them. Remember the adage, "Give a person a fish and they eat for a day, teach them to fish and they eat for life". 

Other times you just have to let go and ask the children or partner to do some of the chores. Great teams are made up of members who play their own part the best they can, as well as help each other when needed.

Remember, the key to successful delegating is clear communication. Give enough instructions to make the job achievable and then trust the person you have asked to do it for you.

Here’s a great delegation tip. Give part of the job of managing behaviour in your classes or home to the children. You’ll be pleasantly surprised how soon they will understand and use the iKi Rulz and how effective they are. To read what Helena and her partner Dane have to say about using iKi Happy Healthy Strong at Home - Click Here

 


GRIT!

Monday, October 30, 2017

GRIT - Equipping our children to become the best they can be! 

The world is changing fast but some things stay the same. The big question for parents everywhere has always been “How do we equip our children to become the best they can be - happy, contributing members of the “teams” that are our families, schools, workplaces and communities?”

There are lots of theories – but the answer that sums it up best is - “Grit” – that mixture of resilience, stamina and determination that comes from understanding that challenge, struggle and pain are an integral part of the journey of life and that learning from ‘failure’ builds strength of character and wisdom.

Research - and common sense - suggest that a key ingredient of grit is the strength we gain by learning positive lessons from our mistakes, and by making habits of the thoughts, actions and behaviours that are life affirming.

Children thrive when they feel the security that comes from clear, consistent rules, when guidelines are the same for everyone and designed to build respect – for each other, for their own property and the property of others. They develop grit (resilience) in safe places where the consequences of their actions and behaviours are fair and consistent.

That’s not to say they should to be coddled – far from it. It’s not about being protected from all danger – it’s about them feeling that they know the rules of the particular context – the game, the place or circumstance they are in.

We all learn best when we feel secure and “game” enough to try things, in the knowledge that we won’t be scorned for failures and that our progress and successes will be acknowledged and valued.

 

Hear more on the positive affects of "Grit" from TED Talk presenter Angela Lee Duckworth in the video below. 

 

 

 

 


Every Single Day in So Many Ways - We Can Get Better!

Wednesday, October 18, 2017

Welcome to our blog "An iKi Kind of Life" which is based on the theme song "Every Single Day". Read the lyrics below and click here to listen to an excerpt. 

 
EVERY SINGLE DAY (Lyrics) 
 
Every single day, in so many ways we can get better.
Every single day, in so many ways we can get better.

Communicate, delegate, educate, learn to relate
Dedicate, investigate, clean your plate, don’t be late,
Desegregate, invigorate, tell it straight, close the gate
Alliterate, make it great, stop the hate, help your mate

Chorus
Every single day, in so many ways we can get better.
Every single day, in so many ways we can get better.

Idealise, visualise, prioritise and compromise
Secularise, democratise, don’t moralise, learn to be wise
Eat for size, exercise, stoke your fires, reach the skies
Eulogise, characterise, laugh at liars, greet the sunrise

Chorus      Solo      Breakdown

Play football, stand up real tall, take the fall, try it all
Fix your mess, add something fresh, tone your flesh, start afresh
Activate don’t procrastinate, isolate or be a deadweight
Don’t look skin-deep, you’ll miss a heap, take a leap, land on your feet!

Localise, energise, economise, enough’s enoughise
Take the test, reach the crest, don’t distress, do your best
Validate, elucidate, meditate and make it great
Chop chop wood and carry water, live your life the way you aughta
 

About Every Single Day.

This song encapsulates one of the core beliefs at iKi : - that the key to living productive and rewarding lives is in choosing behaviours that lead to positive, life affirming outcomes for our families, our communities and ourselves.

Each week we release a blog based around one of the words in the song – musings on an idea or an activity that can help brighten our own lives and the lives of those around us.

 

Through all of history, parents have shared the common goal for their children to have happier, healthier, more productive lives than they did.

We all know there are challenges to that desire, but at iKi we believe there are many practical ways we can strive to keep the dream alive.

Read on, and we hope you will agree that “Every single day in so many ways we can be better” It’s a matter of attitude, practise and action.

  1. Communicate.

 

No matter how old we are, there are some things we remember clearly from our younger years, while others are a blur.

One occasion I remember clearly was sitting in a potato paddock having a break and discussing the world with a couple of mates. We were about 14 years old at the time. I recall we agreed that the world would be a much better place “if we could just communicate”.

But even in our early teens – when we knew we knew so much - we understood that was no simple thing. There are so MANY things to disagree about - with 40 different words for snow, 600 models of cars, multiple life choices, not to even begin to mention politics and religion. We were the same age and gender, from the same small town, with similar interests, speaking the same language - and we still disagreed on lots of things.

We agreed there was ample room for misunderstandings to arise in the real world. Remember, this was before smart phones, thousands of TV channels and the myriad other new distractions demanding our attention, our opinion, our time and money. The risk of being misunderstood, misheard or mistaken is so vast it’s a wonder we agree on anything.


So, with this in mind, this week (and all weeks hereafter) take extra care when communicating. Let’s be clearer when we text. Follow up emails with a call to be sure it’s understood. When interacting face to face, be mindful of our body language and our tone of voice, Take time to listen to the other persons’ point of view.

 

Take a little more care and save a mess of stress by making sure we’re on the same page. After all, we’re all in the same story.

Clear communication is easier when we are healthy and relaxed-- so make some time to energise yourself. Do an energiser now. Take a quick walk around, do a stretch. Go outside and breathe. Your head will be clearer and you’ll see a brighter world. One where we understand each other better, because we take care to communicate more clearly.

 

How do we teach our students, our own children to this valuable life lesson? iKi SRL helps us communicate clearly. The Rulz make it so much easier for us to understand and agree on what is appropriate behaviour and fair consequences in all contexts. Contact us and learn how easy it is implement in your home or classroom today.

 


Thanks to our Supporters!

Monday, July 24, 2017

A message from Kim in response to all the support received since last Tuesday's episode of Shark Tank:

"I’m SO grateful for, proud of, and excited by the huge amount of support I’ve received after my recent Shark Tank appearance. Yes, it was cringe inducing – and as it was actually filmed almost 10 months ago you may understand I’ve had moments of anxiety knowing what was to come. To put it mildly
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However, most of the experience was fantastic, - exciting, energizing, lots of fun and REALLY helped get my focus and commitment right. Yes, I got bitten and bashed but learned a LOT and am much stronger for having done it.
One result is that I’d like to make the following statements:-

Firstly, a big, humble thanks to everyone who has supported, worked with, encouraged or just plain tolerated me over the years. 😊 Most of you know I’ve worked hard and long on iKi, but that would have led absolutely nowhere good without your help. I won’t go into names, right here and now, - you know who you are. But thanks!

Secondly, a bit of a summary of why the sharks mauled me so viciously. I had lots of support and prepared well - (I thought) – but missed a couple of ques at the beginning of filming and got unsettled. Once the sharks scented a struggling swimmer they did what sharks do. So please don’t blame them, I just wasn’t well enough prepared and I can laugh about it now. And continue to learn

Finally, I’m proud and excited about the position I am in now, personally and in the iKi business jumping into the next phase and swimming strongly. Sometimes we have to dive in and test our strength.
Thanks again SO much everyone. And watch this space."

Missed the episode and don't know what we are talking about? - catch up on all the action at tenplay.com.au/SharkTank - iKiFit is featured in Episode 5. 


Forcing apologies or modelling empathy!?

Thursday, July 13, 2017

Forcing apologies out of our children, when quite frankly, they really aren't that sorry!


This is a hot topic in my household right now and I just found this great article which helped put things into perspective a little around what age a child really understands empathy. It would seem that Ive had it all wrong in expecting my 2 yr old to say sorry and mean it, or my 6 yr old for that matter. And it goes to show that role modelling is really the best form of parenting there is and one day when our children have matured enough they will be equipped to respond appropriately in most contexts. In the meantime we can use iKi Rulz such as "Im Ok, You're Ok" (treat others the way you want to be treated) to plant the seed with our children around what may be the appropriate way to approach situations when they have hurt someone accidentally or otherwise. To find out more about the iKi Rulz and how to use them in the home click here

 



Reconnect - The key to surviving the school holidays!

Tuesday, July 04, 2017

Ive seen alot of Memes these last few days about surviving the school holidays! Funnily enough alot of them feature an underlying theme of excessive drinking to cope with the insanity of the next two weeks...and it got me thinking "Why?"..
Why should we dread the holidays? A break from the daily routine, a chance for our kids to regroup, unwind and be kids again. Yeah they might start pushing boundaries they haven't had time to push lately, they might expect you to fill every waking minute with activity and fun, or do they - or is this what we've just come to expect of ourselves? Why not make it about the positives.
 
Why not take what little time you have not being dictated to by school and extra curricula activities and RECONNECT with your children. Do some of the simpler things you regularly say no to because you're too busy getting caught up in all the daily rush, like a game of UNO or SNAP or some craft activities (even the messy ones), cook a family meal together or do an iKiEnergiser together for a bit of fun! 😉 Whatever you choose I guarantee your kids will love it. They will love just having you present, completely present - so dont forget to pop the devices away for that time too 😅
 
And if you find the extra time together a little more difficult with your older cherubs and are having trouble reconnecting or even effectively communicating why not throw in the 3 simple iKi Rulz to establish some common ground and get more helpful tips over at iKi SRL @ Home or drop me a line at ikimum@ikifit.com.au
Amy ~ iKi Mum xx


Do as I Do!

Tuesday, June 20, 2017

Its not enough to say the right things to our kids we have to demonstrate them as well!

This term my kids and I have worked hard at our local martial arts studio, who share and follow the same 3 simple life values as us, and tonight achieved our gradings. I was so proud of my kids and they were super proud of me. We set SMART goals and achieved them together! This is what living an iKi Life is all about. To start your family on this awesome journey of Safe Respectful Learning - in all contexts - become an iKi SRL @ Home member TODAY! 

 


What can happen when you try to BE EVERYTHING!

Monday, June 12, 2017

WARNING: This is what happens when you try and be everything for everybody all of the time!!

 

SYMPTOMS: Anxiety, Depression, Insomnia, Restless legs, Raising Head, Irritability, Irrationality, Uncontrollable Emotions, Unexplainable Outbursts. And that's just whats going on on the inside!

 

You've got to ask yourself...is it really worth it!

People often say to me "You're so organised, you are so good at everything, how do you do it all?"...
The truth... By lying to myself about what is really OK and what is really acceptable and allowing myself to think that anything less would somehow make me weak, or inferior or ineligible...

How can we ever be the true, fair dinkum, authentic, stable and sustainable models we wish to be for our children when we allow external influences such as social media, friends, social groups, blogs, books, magazines, tv and radio to rule our lives and how we perceive we should be.

All that does is leads us to a deep dark place where we can no longer function and find ourselves curled up in a ball unable to complete even the simplest tasks because our energy bucket is empty...we gave it all away... and to who? Not our children, or our family who matter most. Unfortunately in all our effort to be "the best" or "the perfect" - they actually quite often end up with the dregs.

So this morning as I sit here feeling overwhelmed again by the precedence Ive set myself and how Ill possibly keep up the "perfect" charade another day..I say.. Treat YOURSELF the way you would want OTHERS to treat THEMSELVES - with kindness, fairness, nurturing, realism, practicality and love. Listen to the advice you're giving others. If its good enough for them....

Give yourself a break, take heed, breathe and get back in touch with you and maybe drop a few of those balls you've got up there in the air. Otherwise you might end up looking like the crazy lady in this picture!! Xx

 


Reconnect - Enjoy a Meal with your Family

Saturday, May 20, 2017

If you, like me, as a full-time working mother, arrive home feeling as though there is only just enough time to open a tin of spaghetti and kiss your children good night before you're rushing them off to bed, you may consider changing that habit after reading below.

The results of a huge American study came in almost a decade ago that slowly began to turn around what had been a growing trend for millions of families- to eat on the go, in front of the TV or in our rooms, instead of together as a family at the table. 

The study, over 5 years and involving hundreds of thousands of participants set out to answer the question: 

What factors are most effective at keeping people out of jail. Is it education, socio economic status, work, holidays?


The Number 1 answer was: Sharing regular meals with family.
The Number 2 answer was: Sport

The message is clear. Taking time to do stuff with our family has lifelong rewards – for you and for your family. Try leaving the office early a couple of days a week so you can be home in time for dinner. This is a simple way to be happy that is good for us and doesn’t cost anything. 

For more information on the benefits of family dinners including great tips for making meal prep fun - click here